I was introduced to Qoya by my dear friend Sonja (sonjalockyer.com) who after many years as a yoga teacher, found Qoya and in her own words 'has totally transformed her life'.
Honestly, I really resisted at first. I felt really self conscious and a bit uncomfortable. After years of judging my body, with negative self talk i.e. I'm not thin enough, fit enough, feminine enough, graceful enough, it was triggering.
But Qoya showed me how the negative dialogue internally had stopped me from feeling and appreciating this beautiful body that I stood in. Slowly but surely, I started to unwind my tightly wound body, closed my eyes and relaxed into it. Sharing my feelings with other women, I realised I wasn't alone and I felt an overwhelming sense of empowerment and sisterhood. I started to drop deeper into the feeling of the movement in my body rather than being 'stuck in my head' and it started to feel incredible! I would actually look forward to closing my eyes and moving freely.. It felt like coming home to myself.
When I was about 9 years old I remember doing 'impromptu dance shows' for my parents and their friends at their dinner parties! It's funny looking back, but I really remember the feeling of moving without any inhibition, feeling so happy, free, loved and supported and somewhere over the years that spinning, dancing, optimist got lost.
Growing up, opportunities to dance were frequent, classes, parties, college, clubbing, bars. Being in London I lived for the weekend, to dance till the sun came up. As I became a mother, my priorities changed, my body confidence naturally ebbed - but the desire to move, dance and express myself didn't. Our desire to dance is primal. Women have been dancing together since the beginning of civilisation, to express joy, sadness and sisterhood.
Qoya gives us the key back to ourselves.
There have been so many shifts in my life since I began dancing Qoya.
Firstly I've always LOVED music, but now I'm listening all day every day! I have more energy and I can see how music can shift my mindset - almost instantaneously.
As I'm tuning into the wisdom of my body, my heart, my gut, my intuition - I feel happier in my body.
No more overriding, saying yes to things I don't want to do, as I feel a greater level of honestly and truth in my body - it permeates everything, personal and professional relationships.
I've also met some EPIC women, who truly walk their talk, are real, honest and supportive of one another and want to raise each other up in every way possible.
It's fair to say that the essence of my 9 year old self is dancing her way home.
wise, wild and free
The next step for me was the Qoya initiation, I left knowing that I HAD to share my Qoya experience and revelations with women who had felt the same. So in summer 2018 I become a certified teacher.
My passion is to reawaken that lost that sense of connection to self, to help women discover the wisdom within and remember and honour the little girl who who got lost along the way.
My aim is to build a tribe of awakened women, living and feeling their truth and potential, not learning, but remembering that their essence is Wild, Wise and Free.
I also incorporate my deep love of transformation into my work, EllieLoves.com. Working with individuals and businesses to create spaces and environments that not only look good but FEEL good. The approach is the same, whatever the space - We declutter, simplify and style homes, rooms, wardrobes and entire businesses, transforming the way you think and feel.. It can be really valuable to have a fresh perspective when you are moving house, starting over, outgrown your business space, or want to change the way you market your business.. My service is a combination of interior design, creative display, pro organiser, personal shopper, provider of positive energy, little black book and personal cheerleader.
If your ready to start living life on your terms and making positive, lasting changes to your home and business space.. Get in touch and lets talk.